One thing that we need to always keep in perspective is what constitutes a “win.” Winning depends upon the context. As private citizens we “win” when we keep ourselves and the people we care about safe. If this is accomplished with avoidance, or deescalation that is every bit as much a win as prevailing through the application of violence.

As private citizens we “win” when we keep ourselves and the people we care about safe.

It is important to recognize that when it comes to fighting we win as soon as the assailant wishes to break off the attack. We don’t have to fight until the assailant is knocked out, or dead but only until he wants to get away from the situation. This is not to say there aren’t situations where the fight isn’t going to end up with the assailant seriously injured or dead, but that is the exception rather than the rule. Most criminal victimizations have a risk/reward balance and by increasing the risk to the criminal the reward just isn’t worth it any more.